July 29, 2009

Bucket List - Week 16 Update

I've got a several updates to my Bucket List.

Bucket List #1
Yesterday I sent out my manuscript to three local publishers. I got a reply from one of them saying they received it and it'll take 4-6 weeks for a "yay" or "nay" reply. Guess that's a start.

Bucket List #16
Checked out Volunteer Hawaii as one reader suggested and thought it was really helpful. I didn't really see anything that fit me, but I'll have to take another look this weekend.

Bucket List #32
Found a penny in the parking lot at work so this brings my total down to $999.85. Boy, this one's gonna be here a while.

Bucket List #41
Just watched Bill Maher's Religulous and don't think this will happen any time soon . . . well, at least if anything religious is invovled.

Bucket List #55
Still reading I Will Teach You To Be Rich. There's a bunch of interesting info in this book and it's easy to understand. I suppose all of it is written to help you get rich, but it's basically filled with great personal finance tips (some more common sense than anything else) that twenty-somethings should know. More on it next week.

Bucket List #67
As a recap, my KCC golf class got canceled. Apparently the building doesn't have electricity. What does electricity have to do with golfing? Good question. I'm not sure if I'll be registering for the fall classes. I was thinking I might just go to the driving range with my dad once a week. It might be faster that way.

Bucket List #70
Another recap, I picked up a electric sewing machine from Costco. I just have to figure it. My co-worker keeps saying it's really easy, but she's been sewing since before she was 5 years old. I'll try to figure everything out this weekend.

Bucket List #80
Again, I'm very skeptical now that I've watched Religulous. I wasn't a religious person to begin with so the movie seems to have only confirmed my suspicions.

Bucket List #87
Found some line dancing classes that start in the fall. I know they're not ballroom classes, but it's definitely a start. I convinced my friend Elle to come with me. I'm kinda excited. Don't count on me wearing cowboy boots and a hat though.

Bucket List #96
Elle mentioned taking a holiday to a cowboy ranch one day. Might be able to fit this item into that trip. What'dya think?

July 28, 2009

You're My Exception

I just got through watching He's Just Not That Into You and have to say I'm a complete 'tard. Yeah, this is a romantic comedy but it really isn't. I mean, there wasn't a lot of that ooey gooey love stuff and yet I still feel all mushy inside. I'll even admit to a pathetic-sounding whimper and a sigh but don't let that get out.

In a less than stellar imitation of Tom Cruise in Jerry Maguire (I know Cruise didn't say these exact three words but they're three words nevertheless), Justin Long whips out this line:

"You're my exception . . . ."

Ok, ok, I guess the impact isn't the same unless you've seen the film and are a complete 'tard like me. But, these three simple words got me thinking about whether or not I'm the exception or the rule to this thing called love.

More and more people are waiting till later in life to settle down, so maybe my singledom is the rule these days. But will there ever be a time when the need to be in a relationship will arise sharply and I'll want to be the exception? If I wait too long, will all the chances pass me by leaving me without exceptions? Will there be a time when love becomes the rule and not the exception? Is this love thing something I should actively be pursuing, like the Gigi character in the film, regardless of if it's the exception or the rule?

So now what's a girl to do? It seems as though there are fewer and fewer options out there to find love in our island home. Case in point, the increase in online dating, speed dating and even a male auction (yes, for charity but still). I can only assume that as I get older, these opportunities will all but shrivel up and disappear.

But the things we'll do for love have absurdly increased over the years and almost do not seem natural anymore. Is that what it takes to find love? Putting yourself out there and letting it all hang loose - is that the exception or the rule?

Also, with the odds seriously skewed toward divorce it's hard to even consider marriage as a viable option these day. According to divorcerate.org, studies reveal the divorce rate in America for first marriages is 41%, second marriages is 60% and third marriages is 73%. With those kinds of odds, should marriage even be in the picture? Maybe love is all you need?



But, of course, this brings us back to the question of where do you find love? Is finding love the exception or the rule? Is online dating and speed dating the exception or the rule? Is even meeting a suitable companion the exception or the rule? Is the active pursuit for love the way to go or do you just wait for it to happen? Exception or rule?

Even after all of this, I'd stil like someone to tell me that I'm his exception to the rule.

July 24, 2009

Dinner Out Back

Tonight I had dinner at Outback Waikiki with my friend Wonder Woman, who I haven't seen in what seems like years. She's an old co-worker from my previous hell hole who I only worked with for about three months. However, during those three months of hard labor, we somehow formed a bond that can only be achieved through mutual suffering.

Anyway, Outback was pretty empty at 6 p.m. and we didn't have to wait at all. The service was good. We were the only table our server had at the time. They seem to have upgraded their menu. Then again, I haven't been to Outback in months and months. The bad part about the evening is that we had to pay $4.50 for parking, even when Outback validated.

WTF? We're not even in the heart of Waiks yet and the parking is outrageous. Isn't there supposed to be some kind of economic slump? Why don't they drop the fricken prices to lure people out of their homes? I'm completely frightened to think what the cost would've been if we hadn't validated.

All that aside, I had a nice three and a half hours of catching up with Wonder Woman. You're probably wondering why I call her that. Well, besides not wanting to name names, to me she is a perfect Wonder Woman.

She's the only girl I know who's really taken finding her one true love into her own hands and put herself out there trying to meet someone. I mean, she's done volunteering, blind dates, speed dating and even bought herself a man. No, not one of them gigs walking the street but a real, live fire fighter.

Last weekend, she was one of many girls who went out to Oceans808 and participated in the Burning Down the House fundraiser. I would've loved to go to this bachelor auction for the Susan G. Komen for the Cure, but alas, I had three fricken events that week/weekend. If I'd gone, I would've probably just been there for the eye candy. However, Wonder Woman was there for a purpose.

At the end of the night, she walked away with a gen-u-wine Honolulu fire fighter. Yuuummy! The bidding lasted about five bids and she walked away with him as her prize plus an awesome date package that included a dinner out at Haleiwa Joe's and a shark diving expedition. Isn't that crazy? I love that it's not a traditional date and is probably something regular peeps wouldn't choose as their first date. I'm biting my nails just waiting to get an update from her.

Anyway, her experience in the dating pool has gotten me thinking about just how far I am willing to go in the pursuit of love? I've gotta say that I'm probably a gutless biatch when compared to her. I wouldn't do half the stuff she's done just to find my true love.

It's probably more apathy than fear (or at least I think so), and that's gotta be one of the saddest things I've ever admitted to myself. I think I'm just way to comfortable in my life to bother making the effort. This is so wrong though, isn't it?

July 22, 2009

Bucket List - Week 15 Update

I've got a several updates to my Bucket List.

Bucket List #1
Since it seems very likely that my second manuscript submission has been lost by my publisher, I have decided to take the time to review and revise it. After this process, I'll send it out to other local publishers. I say screw exclusive rights at this point. My publishers have had it for about a year and a half or so and haven't had the decency to even get it reviewed or turn it down completely. It basically hasn't even been acknowledged.

Bucket List #16
This is still a pretty sticky issue at work. It's got a lot to do with all that bullshit office politics. I've decided just to go out and do something on my own. I'm planning to look into volunteer opportunities in town and see which one I like the most.

Bucket List #26
I wish I could just change my manager or at least his personality. However, this doesn't seem likely. I think the only option if I stay here is one of us going crazy. It's more likely me than him because the guy can be so obtuse at times. Still, it isn't exactly a great time to be job hunting, now is it?

Bucket List #32
I found six cents in the washing machine the other day. I hate doing laundry so I try not to hold out as long as possible before I do it. Usually I end up doing 4+ loads at a time. Anyway, this brings my total down to $999.86.

Bucket List #55
I'm working I Will Teach you to be Rich by Ramit Sethi for July. I came across his blog several months back and try to read it when I can. He has interesting tips for people trying to make a little and save a little. He also makes everything seem so damn easy.

Bucket List #67
I'll finally be on my way to achieving this. My golf lessons got pushed back two weeks so my first lesson is on Sunday. I'll letcha know how it goes. Hopefully I won't get blisters on my hands. Also, I was supposed to use my sister's old set but she couldn't find it. My dad let me borrow his 8 iron, which is the only club required for this class. However, my sister just gave me a call and found the clubs. Hallelujah! I'm going to pick them up on Saturday.

Bucket List #70
Still looking for a cheap sewing machine that's easy to use. I'm not in a huge rush though. I'll probably wait till Christmas for some sales.

Bucket List #81
This is getting to be almost impossible at work. There's pretty much no hope that I start working on this one in the context of the four walls in my office.

Bucket List #85
Yeah, like I ever really started this one. But I think about it often LOL Maybe after I get this golf lesson thing going, I can count going to the driving range as exercise?

Bucket List #87
Haven't heard any news from my friend who wanted to do the ballroom dancing lessons. It's probably not happening. I suppose I can wait another 30+ years before I do this. At least then I'll have a chance of being in the right demographic.

Bucket List #90
Again, while I'd very much like to do this at work, it's pretty well impossible.

July 20, 2009

Big Brains Are Sexy

People, if you didn't already know, big brains are sexy. Ok, not literally big brains but intelligence, cleverness, smarts - you get the picture.

If you want to attract your future mate, all you need to do is this simple exercise for three to five minutes a day. Introducing SuperBrain Yoga.

Yeah, it might look silly. Yeah, you might feel silly doing it. Yeah, it quite possibly is silly. But wait to see who has the last laugh when you pull a hot bloke or skirt your first night out.

I Survived

I'm writing to you now from a near comotose state. Well, not really. But I'm extremely tired after surviving my three special events at work. Only an idiot schedules things this tight. But let's just leave it at that so I don't go off on a ranting tangent.

After living through this past week, I feel like singing Destiny's Child's "Survivor" from the rooftops:

I'm a survivor.
I'm not gon' give up.
I'm not gon' stop.
I'm gon' work harder.
I'm a survivor.
I'm gonna make it.
I will survive.
Keep on survivin'.


I wouldn't have to if I could just get the damn YouTube video to play with sound. I don't understand how all of them can be muted unless it's me. But I'm playing other vids online and the sound comes out fine.

In any case, I survived and alive to bitch about it.

Editor's Note:
The video is finally working. Here it is:

July 16, 2009

One Down, Two To Go

I just got home from doing our annual scholarship awards ceremony and dinner. We had about 65 people show up and awarded 10 lucky college kids with some money for school and some free stuff. All in all it went pretty well. Only two more events to go and I'll call it a success if I can manage to live through them.

On the way to our cars, my co-worker and I were walking with one of the branch managers. Somehow during the two year's I've been working at this place, I have seemed to confide in him more honestly than anyone else (well, besides my co-worker). It's odd because he's a manager and on the same level as my boss. Yet, somehow it's easy to relate to him and tell him my frustrations about my boss and the job quite honestly.

Tonight he pointed out that as we were leaving we didn't even acknowledge our boss when he said thanks for all the help. He seemed quite appalled that we didn't even hide our disgruntled attitude or whatever you want to call what we feel toward our boss. This got me wondering if others saw it too or if it's just that we're comfortable with this particular manager and just let it all hang loose?

To be honest, I probably don't really care who sees the bad 'tude. I know that's not going to make me employee of the year or anything, but truthfully who wants that anyway? And anyway, it's the truth and why lie about it? I don't think anyone understands what it's like to work day in and day out with my manager. Yeah, you can put up with him during a two-hour meeting once a week. Yeah, you can joke around with him as you pass him in the halls (although I don't think you'll find any of his jokes funny . . . we don't). But try working with him every day. The guy is just really weird.

I'd say he was a big baby about some things and acts like a sissy girl about others. Then he tries to play it off like he's a macho man in front of everyone else. Who does all the heavy lifting in the office? Not him. He doesn't lift a god damn finger when I'm passing his office carting around loads of boxes. He doesn't even participate in event planning anymore either. The man cannot organize himself. How can he organize a group of people without blowing his top? And believe me, I've heard stories where he yells at people. What a pro, right?

Before, I used to try to figure him out. I wondered what exactly makes this dude tick? But after two years of the same crap, I've given up. As a sign of my internal "who gives a fuck?" I outwardly try not to acknowledge him at all . . . which leads us back to the branch manager's comments tonight.

I don't see myself changing my attitude as I don't see him changing his. Now either one of needs to go or else it'll just continue this way. And until I find a good opportunity out there (like some rich dude wants to ravish me with all of his family's millions), I suppose I'll be here a while. How can this continue though? Seriously, this cannot be good for either of our heaths. How my manager could have even made it through life thus far and be married with two young kids is beyond me. All I can say is that there's no accounting taste is there?

July 15, 2009

Bucket List - Week 14 Update

This week's been hectic as hell and I don't have much to report on my Bucket List.

Bucket List #67
On Friday the KCC people left me a voicemail saying my golf lessons were being postponed. They didn't explain why. Wonder what happened? At least it's not completely canceled. That'd would be a bummer. So instead of starting this past Sunday, I start in two weeks. That's if I can survive this weekend. Work's just about to kill me. Why would anyone plan three events in four days? Like S&M much? Not me.

July 14, 2009

True Blood Review

I've finished watching the entire first season of True Blood and gotta say that it's sucking me in. There are quite a few gems by way of plot and acting throughout the season. There's a bunch of twists and turns that I have surprised me, and I think the good writing is what's keeping me on the edge of my seat.

One intriguing aspect is the idea that Sookie is pulled in two directions by two different male "suitors" as Bill would say. Vampire Bill embodies animalistic, passionate energy. He's mysterious and dangerous, powerful and definitely deadly. Opposite him is Sam Merlotte, Sookie's boss and a shapeshifter whose favorite alternative persona is a dog. Of course, this metaphor isn't too hard to figure out. Sam represents safety, loyalty, friendship and love, just like your favorite canine buddy.

So which type will she ultimately fall for? I can only assume it'll be Bill. After all, the series is about vamps, right? However, she will probably waver between the two men for another season or two just to draw out the agony. I'm sure each guy has a fan club of loyal viewers pulling for him - both are pretty easy on the eyes.

Another guy with a huge fan club is Ryan Kwanten, who plays Sookie's brother Jason. I'm amazed at how Kwanten can play dumb so well. Jason is truly no rocket scientist, but Kwanten makes it so believable. I've listened to some of the episode commentary and whenever he's mentioned, directors and writers will comment on how different he is from his character. It takes a smart person to play a dumb one. I like the idea that the dumb blonde bimbo is actual male in this instance. Ah, how the tables have turned.

I'll probably continue to watch this series when the dvds come out. I want to find out more about this world as apparently there's more to it than vampires and shapeshifters. How much more? I guess I'll have to stay tuned to find out (or read the books).

July 8, 2009

True Blood

I just started watching HBO's True Blood season one. The first two episodes are interesting enough for me to keep watching. I'll letcha know how it goes.

Somehow, I still don't find it as good as J.R. Ward's vampire world. Maybe my imagination is just a lot better than TV? Possibly. Or maybe books are still a better way to be engulfed by fiction?

So far, True Blood is about a telepathic girl named Sookie (Anna Paquin). I can't keep the saying "Sookie, sookie now" outta my head, but I'm positive it doesn't have anything to do with this series. It's set in Louisiana post Katrina, so I suppose in modern times. Sookie is waitressing at a bar when a vampire walks in. It's the first vamp this small town has ever seen, and Sookie is fascinated. Others are horrified (typical) or scared.

My first impression is that there are just so many characters that it's hard to keep up. It's like a whirlwind, but I'm sure after a couple episodes I'll be ok. I'm also unsure of how supernatural this series is going to be. For instance, are vampires the only other species alive in this series? Or are there lycanthropes, witches/wizards or zombies? Like most stuff on HBO, it's definitely rated R with a lot of sex and violence. Not too much swearing at this point but I suppose the other stuff makes up for it.

Overall, it had a pretty good start and I'm willing to watch a couple more episodes to find out what's going on. Has anyone else seen this series?

Bucket List - Week 13 Update

This week I didn't have anything to do with my Bucket List so no update needed. What with the July Fourth holiday and all, I just didn't really bother with it. Plus, work is gearing up to be something awful, and it'll last till mid-August. Sucks for me huh?

July 4, 2009

Golf Updates on Imua Golf

As part of my efforts to fulfill #67 (Hit a hole in one) on my Bucket List, I've created an account at a local golf website called Imua Golf. It seems like a nice little community of people all about golf. I figure this'll help me stay focused when my hands hurt from holding the club and when my back aches from all that twisting.

I decided I'll keep a little journal going on their website to chronicle my experiences - the good, bad, frustrating and confusing. It might be therapeutic to vent about that little white monster that I can't seem to hit straight, right?

Anyway, here's my first post called Visions of a Hole in One for your enjoyment. It's just me introducing myself to their community. I'll continue to update my trials and tribulations here at Paradise Revealed in a general sense, but I'll be more detailed and get into more golf-related stuff at Imua Golf. Don't want to bore you too much with all the hacking and slicing that'll probably go on, especially in the beginning.

July 2, 2009

Disney Proposal - Real or Really Good Marketing?

I'm not sure whether this video of a marriage proposal is real or if it's just really good marketing. The romantic in me wants to believe this guy is a struggling actor whose day job is waiting tables in between call backs for gigs. That he planned this all with the help of some friends and rehearsed like crazy. That he asked the Disney magic people to help him capture this for posterity.

But the cynic in me believes this is truly a very clever marketing scheme by the Disney folks. What better way to advertise and promote the magic kingdom by having dozens of people witness a magical moment such as this? Who knows if this thing happens once an hour on the half hour?

In any case, this is a cute little vid that made me smile.

July 1, 2009

Bucket List - Week 12 Update

This week wasn't any better than last week. I realize that I should probably keep this Bucket List on my to-do list as a top priority, but as usual, life just seems to gets in the way.

Bucket List #1
Haven't heard back on the second manuscript I submitted to my publisher. At this rate, they probably lost the submission. I did submit it over a year ago, and God only knows how many people they've gone through since then. I wonder if I should submit it elsewhere? I gave them their chance at an exclusive, right? It may as well sit on a couple other desks awhile.

Bucket List #55
Guess it's that time of month again when I need to find a book. I haven't forgotten the suggestion to read Mililani Mauka, but I just haven't had time to pick up a copy. I dunno though . . . I grew up in the area. I might not want to read it because it hits too close to home . . . . LOL

For fun, I recently read The Black Dagger Brotherhood: An Insider's Guide by J.R. Ward. I'm just completely obsessed with the series. There's just something deliciously good about crossing danger and seduction. Anyway, it surprisingly had a lot of good tips as far as writing and getting published goes. However, she mostly credits her success to the Brothers (as if they're real people who tell her what to write and how to write it). Wouldn't it be nice to have a muse like that?